Russ, says thanks to Gill at BP Coaching

Amazing video from someone who never thought they could face their fear of getting lost.
Now if he can do it after help from BP Coaching, just think what you can do!

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I am me and there is a lot to like and be proud of.

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What can focusing on love teach you?

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Face your fears, it could be fun!

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Funeral of an older friend.

Yes, it may seem an unusual thing to write about though it is interesting what these occasions can teach you.

I’d just moved in and my neighbours invited me to a surprise 90th Birthday party. So the first time I saw her I looked and thought ’I want to get to know you’. She was surrounded by people, laughing, enjoying a drop of wine, sharing her smiles and thoroughly enjoying being the centre of attention. Another amazing thing was that she didn’t seem her age at all, so what kept her young? Little bits about her were dropped into conversations, her interest in travel, living in the South of France in the 1960’s and 70’s and her belief in the value of family and friends. She was independent, spirited and yet so loved by so many people.

So I took a bit of time to get to know her, an afternoon tea, a walk in the local area with her, a theatre trip. She chose her friends well and whilst I was there for those times in her life, it was to other people that she turned to for help. I was just too busy getting on with being single, creating my own home, the first roof over my head that could not be taken away.

So the funeral comes around and listening to the chatter left me answering questions I had never dared ask myself.

How do you stay young?
She taught me to make friends with young people, join groups that will challenge you. This lady was never a wife or a mother though she was in groups for both and they gave her great satisfaction and support.

She enjoyed joining something new, meeting new people and enjoying life.

There is a lot of talk now about not acting your age, so try something new. You don’t have to be experienced in an area to be able to give something to others.

How do you attract new people?
A new face – fantastic, it may be a carer – that she had been forced to accept, she taught me to always remember that each new person in your life brings new interests to you, new stories and contacts.

So, take the time to listen and learn, be interested in others. It’s also a great way to challenge your brain as you absorb new information on people.

Always remember a detail about each person you meet, keep your brain active by doing this and make the other person feel special.

Share your smiles, they cost nothing and create an amazing eye contact bond.

What skill or achievement in your life amazes others?
Who would have thought that just by living in the South of France during the 1960’s and 70’s would become so much of a talking point and of interest to everyone you meet!

Something you take for granted now, could be your ‘amaze factor’ in the future.

Store each moment and memory, as one day it will be your chance to shine. Your story could one day be a metaphor travelling the world.

Do I live to my beliefs and morals?
My friend did and listening to all the kindness sent her way at her sending off, then I know it was a life of no regrets. She lived to her moral code.

Right, wrong, I believe, I trust, I’d do anything for, my duty is………

It could be your family, your friends, a happy outlook. There are some of these we don’t feel we choose and yet we know it’s the right thing to do.

For me it was looking after my Mum to the best of my ability, I didn’t always get it right though I know I always did the best I could.

Live to the high value of your beliefs and morals, no regrets if you always do your best.

My final questions are!

Will you ask yourself those questions?

What actions will you take to live a life with no regrets?

So what can an older friend teach you and will you take the time to learn before it’s too late?
Remember that good friends are the ones you can laugh and cry with and they are good for your body, mind, soul and your adrenal glands. They are also the best ones to keep you grounded, when you need it!

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Computer password safety. Try affirmations.

I was chatting to a lovely friend the other day and he told me about his idea to keep his computer passwords safe.

It was to use affirmations.

According to wikipedia an affirmation is something that is true. So let’s take that a step further and say that an affirmation is something that is true in the life you want to live.

I have adrenal problems so a good one to say is
‘I love and approve of myself. It is safe for me to care for myself.
(Louisa Hay – You can Heal Your Life )

Others that I use are

  • I’m choosing to allow love, energy and peace into my heart.
  • I am thankful and patient, I am calm. I understand everything is happening perfectly. I have faith.
  • I create a new life with new rules that totally support me.
  • I love myself for bringing me through the past and into the present.

Notice how they are all in the positive and also in the now, so you are talking about the life you want to live as though it is happening now.

I’d hate to be typing those into my 17 different computer password screens so here is a tip. Short versions will work too.

  • I love me
  • I accept me
  • I am safe
  • I live in the now
  • Life loves me
  • I am free
  • I am happy
  • I laugh
  • I am love
  • All is well
  • I am peace
  • I let go
  • I am healthy
  • I am calm
  • I create
  • I relax
  • I am slim

Quite often you have a number in there. The number 1 is good as it reflects the fact that
‘I let go 1′

So you would type it
with the number 1 being you, a powerful number to be Number 1!

How powerful is ‘I love me 1′?………

So a quick tip to improve your computer security, get you working on affirmations and tell your brain to work on your new life.
I call that win/win.

Tell me your suggestions as others may like them too.

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Live your full potential – Now!

What is your future and how is it affecting your life today?

This thought came about after listening to a friend and what her thoughts were about the future.

There are 2 guys, similar background, similar education and both with their futures ahead of them. Both are in their late 20’s and are in the Civil Service as customer service staff.

It is now 2012!
One knows that in 2016 he is going to be a lawyer in a large firm in London.
The other thinks that he would like to be a personal fitness instructor in America.

Our London guy is working a 36 hour week. He knew in 2008 where he wanted to be in 2016. After work, in his office at home, he is now in his final year of studying for his Law degree. He’s been volunteering at the local Citizens Advice Bureau and has now been asked to become a local JP (Justice of the Peace). He’s also a coach for his local football team.

Mr America, well he works 36 hours too. He also coaches a local football team. Whilst out with the guys he met a great girl from Sweden and she just maybe the one!

Both of these guys are living their futures now.

If you know where you want to be or what you want to be by a set date then you live your future as your present. Your present is busy and full as each thing you are doing is to achieve that future.
If you don’t have an idea as to where you are going then great things can be happening to you, but it’s not you who is making the decisions.

In a more serious way, if you are depressed and all you can see in the future is a bleak future then you live your life now in that shadow.
Maybe you are ill, don’t look at the future as though you are still ill.
I’m tired now, I can’t see a time when I won’t be tired!

Change it around and see yourself at a set date in the future where you are happy, you have a great job, you are healthy, you full of energy.
Take time to visualise the date, the place and exactly how you are. Define it, shape it, colour it, smell it.
Just doing this and you are moving forward into a better place.

My future is as yet unknown to me. One thing though is that I know it will be brighter and happier, so I live with those feelings in my heart and towards those who help and support me.

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